Success Starts With Self-Love. Happy Heart Day to YOU.
I've noticed that many of my successful clients (Peter Harper Marcia Donziger, Luisa Franco, CAFP Bruce Kabat, Julia Bourlakov CFP® and Reliever of Financial Confusion, Carol Parrish, RICP®,) are good at putting themselves first. NOT in a selfish way........... in a healthy way.
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If you've ever built a house.....
or created a weekly schedule....
or sketched a drawing.....
or decorated a room....
.....you've designed something based on YOUR preferences.
But as part of a family or a team, there comes a point where we can sometimes LOSE our own preferences because we're SO DARN accustomed to catering to others.
EXAMPLE: (I realize, sometimes, that figuring out what I want for dinner is SO muddied by anticipating what my husband and daughter want.)
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When I got married back in 2005, my husband and I were very intentional about this long term commitment and the shape we wanted it to take.
Most marriages we saw resembled the letter "A".
***Two lines, each representing a human, ending with each other and leaning on each other, with a short line connecting them in the middle.****
So if ONE fell, the other did too.
(There's a Dixie Chicks song called If I Fall You're Going Down With Me, but it would not load here, sigh)
But we decided that we preferred our marriage be a letter "H".
***Two straight lines, each on an endless individual path, and always connected (and often compromising) in the middle. Together, but individual******
We felt like standing ON OUR OWN little pieces of earth was important.
We tried.
But it was WAY HARD. Culture screams:
People pleasing is the WAY!
Don't cause conflict!
Pretend you're happy!
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So....we've done a shit-ton of personal growth and meditated and fought and remained patient and got very honest....and we're trying to get back on the H track.
YUP.......It's about self-love
I love ME first.
Ask yourself:
--What do I want?
--What are my preferences?
--Who am I?
--Who am I not?
****And as you might guess, self-love and boundaries in your personal life flows like a big fat strawberry smoothie toward your professional life.*****
--Are you claiming yourself?
--Do you love yourself more than others?
--Are you holding your ground?
--Do you cater to your clients or your partner or your vendors too much?
--Are you taking projects you don't want?
If this gave you pause for thought, please oh pretty please tell me why......because I love finding revolutionary sisters and brothers, yo.
I'm in the business of transformation. I help people BECOME.
If you're interested in going deeper than most business banter on LinkedIn, phone moi.
https://tidycal.com/andreaenright/