Andrea’s Afternoon Delight: Five Ways to Drop the Desperation from Your Emails
Delighted after Nia at iBody
You’re not a desperate guy wearing a tie and wolfing down a jelly roll to celebrate what's-his-name's birthday. That’s not you.
So stop sounding desperate in your emails. Eliminate these phrases and you'll be set. Snaps to Alison Kramer for the inspiration.
CHECKING IN. Nothing innately wrong with this. But we’ve heard it too much. It’s salesy. And desperate. And repetitive.
Put a “just” in front of it and you might as well wear a shirt that says Keep Calm and Blah Blah Blah. Because that’s how you cliché you sound.
JUST. I now deem it only suitable for contrasting sentences. Ahem:
“It’s not Kombucha, it’s just a sparkly drink.”
"It’s not Wynona Ryder, it’s just Keira Knightley.”
“Just” is a demotion.
When you use “just” you are demoting yourself.
HOPE. Kafka was right. There is hope, but not for us. So never mind hope. Let’s live in the present moment. Let’s not hope we can get together soon. Let’s not hope we can connect. Let’s just do it.
And speaking of “Let’s”, how about using this phrase:
“Let’s get together.”
Instead of this one:
“Would you like to get together?”
It’s not pushy, it’s direct and affirming. (There's even a song about it, which really outs my nerd-factor.) And it just eliminated a decision for your reader. If they hate you, they already hated you. Oh well.
WHATEVER WORKS FOR YOU. Use this phrase sparingly. As a follow up to two different meeting time options, sure. But as a conclusion to a coffee offer, forget it.
Provide availability. With time slots.
And don’t worry about holding those time slots. You’re busy. If they’re filled up by the time your contact responds, they knows you’re in demand.
SORRY. So overused. But I get it. And even blogged about it when I was in the Peace Corps. Because in America, we apologize. A lot. Mostly unnecessarily.
If you think it’s easy to remove “sorry” and not sound abrupt, think again. It’s gonna be weird at first. At least it was for me.
But just try it.
A true "sorry", to clarify, is when you misjudge or mess up. Spill your Slurpee on my dress. Forget your passport when you're going to Botswna.
I think you know what I’m talking about.
Let’s just leave it at that.
Time's up. That's five. Now go confront those leads. Off with you.